Who’s Winning?

I’ve always been under the impression that women have all the power when it comes to dating.

They are prettier, they are (often) smarter and they are the ones that say “yes” or “no” when we ask them out (to which the ratio of “no” to “yes” is always embarrassingly stacked in the favor of “no”, so we assume a “no” when approaching). We’ve failed before even trying, like doing a keg stand. Therefore, the power is not ours.

Not to mention the fact that we’re always trying to understand them, brainstorming ways to approach them and endlessly attempting to convince them that a date with one of us is, despite what her uppity friends think, not a bad idea.

Apparently I’m wrong. A woman told me – that’s how I know.

They believe that we possess all the power. (Stop. Read that again.)

They have to wait for us to approach them.

They are not selecting the events scheduled in the date and they are the ones who have to wonder whether or not we will really call them back. (Oh man, you know that has got to be annoying.)

Forget who actually has the “power”, whoever is perceived to have it pretty much has it. I do hope you’ll stop reading right here and step into your day, confident that no woman will ever place her gypsy spell on your unsuspecting soul again simply because you perceive yourself to have said power.

However…

Here’s the unfortunate truth: Of the two parties, whichever one is least interested actually has the power, which means that when it counts, you’re losing.

This is a good thing (stay with me) because fumbling the situations with women who aren’t interested in us means we’re better off. Crazy as it sounds, a relationship with  someone who is uninterested in us as a person would be unwise.

Plus, it forces us to notice the ease of being around someone who is interested and marvel at how there is no power struggle when two people feel the same way about each other for once.

So, thanks human nature, for reminding us we don’t have the power when we really want it, and for humiliating us again and again in order to save us from relationships where one person has sway over the other.

Besides, we couldn’t handle that kind of power anyway.