5 Rules for Answering Those Annoying Girl Questions Like a Pro

The scene is a comfortable one: you’re cozy with your girlfriend, sitting in peaceful and easy silence. Then she kills it.

She asks one of those awful typical girl questions like, “What are you thinking?”

So much for a comfortable scene.

Every man has inevitably asked himself dozens of times why women insist on asking intrusive (and what you consider pointless) questions that she never wants to hear the real answers to anyway.

Let me clue you in, guys.

We don’t know.

Seriously. We don’t know. It’s this strange compulsion. We know it probably won’t even go well. We know you likely are not thinking what we HOPE you’re thinking, but we just can’t help ourselves. We can never quite quench our desperate thirst to know what goes on inside your heads.

That discouraging confession really means only one thing: those annoying questions aren’t going to go away any time soon, no matter which girl you’re dating. (Disclaimer: some girls do ask them less and are better equipped for whatever feedback they may receive. “Some” being the operative word. Seek those girls.)

If annoying girl questions are just as sure as death and taxes, and believe me, they are, a Rugged man better know how to answer them like a champ. Follow these five rules and you’ll be in the winner’s circle every time.

Rule #1:  Always Have an Answer

If a woman asks you a question, “I don’t know” or “Nothing” are never satisfactory answers. Tell her something like that and you can bet you’ll receive a string of equally, if not more, annoying follow-up questions. She will keep pushing until she receives an answer that appeases her. If your mind really was blank, sit and think for a few minutes to come up with something.  Then, even if the answer is barely more than an “I don’t know, honey,” she’ll likely accept it because you put some effort into your answer.

Rule #2: Explain Yourself

You know that 99% of the time, your honest answer is not something she will want to hear. A good explanation can take the edge off an unfavorable response. For example, let’s say you’re cuddling after being intimate. She asks the quintessential annoying question, “What are you thinking?” The truth is, you’re wondering who won the baseball game or if there is any pot roast left in the fridge. Clearly these are not answers she wants to hear in that moment. You can be honest, you can say it, just be sure to explain it. That explanation can be as simple as “I know this is going to sound strange, but (blank) made me think of (blank). So, right this very moment that’s what I was thinking.”

Rule #3: Follow Up with What She Wants to Hear

After you explain yourself, smooth it over by expressing your feelings for her (yes, we can be quite needy that way). She probably doesn’t even realize she is seeking positive reinforcement, so be her hero and provide it. Tell her something like, “But now, I’m thinking about how (insert adjective here) you are.”  She’ll accept the compliment at face value because it seems genuine when it follows the disclosure of the random thing you really were thinking. It’s not a total line either; you really do think she is beautiful, amazing, sexy, or whatever adjective you chose, you wouldn’t be with her otherwise.

Rule #4: Your Mouth Does Little of the Talking

You might be irritated to no end by the question, but don’t let her see that, unless you want the inevitable fight that will follow. Be aware that your nonverbals will tell her much more than your words ever do. Give her a tender squeeze when you admit you’re actually thinking about baseball, it tells her you acknowledge that’s not what she hoped to hear. Look her in the eye when you say, “I’m now thinking about how incredible you are,” and she’ll really believe you (and you will be reminded of why you think that). Follow it up with a gentle kiss to make her feel cherished.

Rule #5:  Ask HER the Questions

Two can play this game – turn the tables. In fact, she will love to have a partner. Don’t worry though, no thought is necessary. Simply throw her question right back. This helps you win in two ways. She will either A) realize it’s not very fun to get asked annoying questions all the time and will scale back so she doesn’t have to answer them too. Or, the more likely B) she’ll LOVE that you kept the conversation going and wanted to know her thoughts. She’ll tell all her friends she has the best boyfriend in the world because he listens and actually tells her what goes on inside his head (yes, we really do brag about those sorts of things). She’ll likely prattle away for quite some time, leaving you free to think about baseball or that leftover pot roast.

Warning: Close adherence to these rules makes you look like a pro, which means you’ll likely be playing the game more. She might ask you more annoying questions, but that’s ok because you know how to knock them out of the park, one right after another.

Besides, when you answer her questions well, she feels more connected to you emotionally. When she feels more connected to you emotionally, she tends to demonstrate that physically.

Now there’s a comfortable setting she likely won’t interrupt.